Sexual Desire In Women - Women And Sex

woh apka nafsiyati analysis karney kay baad aap kay iss masley ko hal karey kyun kay yeh ek nafsiyati masla hai. Jinsi khwahish (libido) aur jinsi amal ek fitri process hai aur agar biwi jinsi amal mein active kirdar ada karey to azdawaji zindagi bey hudd khushgawar ho jati hai. (Hyde) 

Mard Inn Aurton Ko Pasand Nahi Kartey Jo Sex Ko Pasand Karti Hain?

    Khawateen kay zehen mein kisi na kisi tarhan yeh baat bitha di gaee hai ya beth gaee hai kay mard inn aurton ki izzat nahi kartey ya unko pasand nahi kartey jo sex ko pasand karti hain. Yeh baat na sirf mashriq mein bul kay maghrib mein bhi mashhoor hai. Iss baat ki koi haqeeqat nahi kyun kay mard aisi aurton kay sath zyada comfortable feel kartey hain aur unko pasand kartey hain jo sex mein dilchaspi leti hain. (Angelis)

Aurat Mein Mard Sey 8 Guna Zyada Shahoot? (Sexual Desire In Women)

    Yeh baat bar bar suni jati hai kay aurton mein jinsi khwahish (sexual desire) mardon sey 8 guna zyada hoti hai. Aurat mein chahey janey ki khwahish bila mubalgha bohut hai magar jahan tak jinsi khwahish (libido) ka ta'alluq hai woh mard sey zyada nahi. Kuch researchers ka khayal hai kay iss lehaz sey mard aur aurat donon baraber hain aur kuch ka khayal hai kay mardon mein yeh khwahish thori si zyada hai. Darasal aurat mein mohabbat ki khwahish zyada hai jab kay mard mein mubashrat (Intercourse) ki. 'Woman wants to talk man wants to do'. Lehaza science kay mutabiq yeh baat bilkul ghalat hai kay aurat mein jinsi jazbat mard sey 8 guna zyada hain. (Zakir: Hyde) 

Frequent Intercourse - Kasrat e Mubashrat

Kasrat e Mubashrat Aurton Kay Liye Nuqsandeh Hai? 

(Frequent Intercourse Is Harmful)

    26 year old unmarried Noreen ney mujhey phone kya uski jald shaadi honay wali thee. Uska honay wala husband iss ka aashiq bhi tha. Iss kay husband ney iss ko kaha kay shadi kay baad woh iss kay sath bohut zyada mubashrat (Intercourse) karey ga. Noreen pareshan thee kay mubashrat (Intercourse) zyada karney sey iss ko koi nuqsan to nahi pohonch jaey ga. Mubashrat (Intercourse) husband aur wife kay liye Allah ki taraf sey ek atiya hai. Yeh kitna bhi kyun na kya jaey iss ka koi nuqsan nahi. Mubashrat (Intercourse) buniyadi tor per sukoon ka sabab hai aur zyada sukoon kabhi bhi nuqsan ka sabab nahi hota. Latest research sey maloom hua hai kay zyada mubashrat (Intercourse) azdawaji zindagi ko zyada purlutf banati hai, jis sey na sirf aurat ki sehat achi hoti hai, age bhi lambi hoti hai bul kay iss ki dard ko bardasht karney ki salahiyat mein bhi izafa hota hai. (Mobeen: Time: Hyde)

Choti Umer Ki Shadi Aurat Ki Sehat Ko Muta'assir Karti Hai? 

    Kuch logon ka khayal hai kay agar larki ki shaadi choti age mein kar di jaey to iss ki sehat kharab ho jaey gi. Yeh baat ghalat bhi hai aur durust bhi. Yani jab aurat hamla (pregnant) hoti hai to iss doran isey apney liye aur bachey kay liye khoorak ki zaroorat hoti hai. Yani ek kay bajaey 2 afrad kay liye khoorak. Ab agar donon ko achi khoorak milti hai to aurat ki sehat per kisi tarhan kay burey asraat nahi partey.  Issi tarhan bachey ki paedaesh kay baad bachey ko milk pilaney ki soorat mein bhi aurat ko achi aur behter khoorak ki zaroorat hai. Agar isey achi khoorak hasil hai to phir iss ki sehat muta'assir nahi hoti lekin agar

Sexual Pleasure For Men - Jinsi Lutf Sirf Mardon Kay Liye

Aurtein Bhi Mubashrat Mein Mardon Ki Tarhan Mani Ka Ikhraj Karti Hain?     La ilmi ki wajah sey humarey yahan yeh baat mashhoor hai kay aurat bhi mubashrat (Intercourse) mein mard ki tarhan mani (seminal fluid) discharge karti hai. Iss ki koi haqeeqat nahi. Aurtein jab jinsi tor per stimulate hoti hain to inki vagina geeli ho jati hai aur yeh iss cheez ki alamat hai kay aurat mubashrat (Intercourse) kay liye tayyar hai aur yeh secretion iss liye hoti hai kay dakhool (penetration) aasan ho aur aurat aur mard ko mubashrat (Intercourse) mein takleef na ho. Magar aurtein hargiz mardon ki tarhan orgasm mein mani (seminal fluid) discharge nahi kartiin. Albatta 5% aurtein orgasm mein pani kharij karti hain jo kay mani (semen) nahi hota. (Dastoor: Zakir)  Jinsi Lutf Sirf Mardon Kay Liye? (Sexual Pleasure For Men)     Humarey yahan yeh baat bhi mashhoor hai kay jinsi lutf sirf mard kay liye hai. Aurat ka kaam sirf yeh hai kay woh mard ko har tarhan sey jinsi lutf fraham karey. Is liye humarey yahan biwi sirf husband ko jinsi lutf fraham karney wali ek machine hai jisey khud jinsi lutf ki zaroorat nahi. Humarey yahan aurat ka jinsi lutf hasil karna mayoob (bura) samjha jata hai. Halan kay Allah ney jinsi milap mein husband aur wife donon kay liye sukoon rakha hai. Chunkay humarey muasharey mein aurat ka sex sey lutf andoz hona acha nahi samjha jata, jiski wajah sey aurat ki jinsi taskeen ka bandobast ya koshish nahi ki jati. Jiski wajah sey aurat shadeed frustration ka shikar hoti hai aur ghar mein laraii jhagrey hotey hain.  Sex Ek Gandi Cheez …? (Sex Is Sin)      Puri duniya mein sex ko ek gandi aur na pasandeeda cheez samjha jata hai. (Dastoor) Isliye khawateen kay bohut sey jinsi masail ki bari wajah yehi ghalat tasawwur hai. Islam mein baghaer nikah kay jinsi amal na sirf buri aur gandi cheez hai bul kay bohut bara gunah (sin) hai. Jab kay nikah kay baad jinsi amal na sirf gandi cheez nahi bul kay ek pasandeeda amal hai. Jisko Allah kay nabi Hazrat Mohammad (P.B.U.H) ney sadqa aur naeki qarar diya hai. Nikah kay baad jinsi amal mein shareek ho kar husband wife donon ajar aur sawab kay mustahiq ho jatey hain. Kya Aurat Sex Ko Pasand Nahi Karti?      Logon mein ek aam khayal yeh bhi paya jata hai kay aurtein sex ko zyada pasand nahi kartiin. Iss khayal ki ekbari wajah yeh hai kay mubashrat (Intercourse) kay doran khawateen active kay bajaey passive role ada karti hain. Yani foreplay aur mubashrat (Intercourse) kay doran aurtein amooman khamosh leti rehti hain. Zinda lash ki tarhan, iss doran jo karna hai mard ney karna hai. Khawateen khwahish kay bawajood mubashrat (Intercourse) mein sexually active kirdar ada nahi kartiin. Issi tarhan hamarey yahan aurat amooman pehel nahi karti. Doosrey mafroozon ki tarhan yeh bhi ek ghalat mafrooza hai. Kyun kay mard aur aurat donon hi sex ko pasand kartey hain. Donon mubashrat (Intercourse) kay khwahishmand hain lekin mashriqi sharm o haya aur ilm ki kami ki wajah sey woh mubashrat (Intercourse) mein active role play nahi karti. Agar aap ko waqaee sex na pasand hai ya iss sey nafrat hai to foran kisi mahir e nafsiyat sey raabta karein ta kay

Bachey Ki Paedaesh - Aurat Ka Inzal

Bachey Ki Paedaesh Kay Liye Aurat Ka Inzal Zaroori Hai?

 (Female Discharge)

    Merey ek client kay bhai ki shadi hui lekin biwi iss shadi sey mutmain na thi, kyun kay woh orgasm hasil nahi karti thi. Baad mein iss aurat ka bacha paeda ho gaya to merey client ney apni bhabhi sey tanziya kaha kay tum to kehti thiin kay miyan mujhey mutmain nahi kar pata phir yeh bacha kaisey paeda ho gaya.  Ek research sey sabit hua hai kay bachey ki paedaesh kay liye sirf mard ka inzaal (ejaculation) zaroori hai. Aurat ki taraf sey sirf egg ki zaroorat hai aur egg kay ikhraj ka aurat kay orgasm sey koi ta'alluq nahi. (Zakir)

Jinsi Lutf Aur Bachey Ki Paedaesh Kay Liye Mian Biwi Donon Ka Ek Sath Orgasm Hasil Karna Zaroori Hai? 

    Hamarey yahan aam logon ka khayal hai kay bharpoor jinsi lutf aur bachey ki paedaesh kay liye donon husband wife ka ek hi waqt jinsi urooj tak pohonchna zaroori hai. Iss ki koi haqeeqat nahi. Jinsi lutf kay liye donon ka orgasm hasil karna zaroori hai. Chahey husband wife mein ek pehley orgasm hasil karley aur doosra baad mein. Issi tarhan bachey ki paedaesh kay liye sirf mard ka inzaal (ejaculation) zaroori hai. Agar aap ko betey ki khwahish hai to agar biwi pehley orgasm hasil karley to mufeed hai. Nabi Kareem Hazrat Muhammad (P.B.U.H) ka irshad hai kay miyan biwi mein sey jiska pani ghalib aaey ga aulad iss per hogi. (Mashkawa) Ek aur research sey maloom hua kay woh  aurtein jo mard sey pehley orgasm hasil karti hain (chahey tariqa koi bhi ho) woh sex sey zyada lutf andoz hoti hain. (Zakir)

Aurton Kay Orgasm Ki Aqsaam

Mard usually ek mubashrat (Intercourse) mein ek orgasm hasil karta hai jab kay aurat ek mubashrat (Intercourse) mein ek sey zyada orgasm hasil kar sakti hai. Ek experiment mein ek aurat ney 50 orgasm hasil karey. Iss kay elawa mard usually pehley orgasm mein zyada lutf uthata hai jab kay aurat doosrey, teesrey orgasm mein zyada lutf uthati hai. Hite kay survey kay mutabiq agar chahein to tamam aurtein ek sey zyada orgasm hasil karney ki salahiyat rakhti hain. Aurat mubashrat (Intercourse) ki nisbat musht zani (masturbation) sey jald orgasm hasil kar leti hai. (Hite: Hyde)

Aurton ka orgasm 2 types ka hota hai.

(Types Of Female Orgasm)

1. Dakhooli (Vaginal)
2. Bazeri (Clitoral)

    Master and Johnson kay mutabiq har aurat indirectly or directly clitoral stimulation sey hi orgasm hasil karti hai jab kay doosrey mahireen ka khayal hai kay taqreeban 80% aurtein clitoral stimulation sey aur baqi dakhool (penetration) sey orgasm hasil karti hain. Sherry Hite kay survey kay mutabiq taqreeban tamam aurton ko orgasm hasil karney kay liye clitoral stimulation ki zaroorat hai. Yani bohut bari tadaad sirf dakhool (penetration) sey orgasm hasil nahi karti, chahey mubashrat (Intercourse) 2 hours tak jari rahey. Aurat ka asal sensitive part bazer (Clitoris) hai jo kay vagina sey door labia minora kay ooper waley hissey mein chicken ki kalghi ki tarhan hota hai. Aam mubashrat (Intercourse) mein penis iss ko touch nahi karta

Types Of Female Orgasm - Aurton Kay Orgasm Ki Aqsaam

lehaza aksar aurton kay orgasm kay liye zaroori hai kay husband ya biwi khud mubashrat (Intercourse) kay doran bazer (Clitoris) ko finger sey stimulate karey. Kyun kay hamarey yahan husband wife donon iss haqeeqat sey aagah nahin jis ki wajah sey aurton ki ek big taadaad orgasm hasil nahi karti jiski wajah sey inki jinsi zindagikhushgawar nahi hoti. Aurat ka mubashrat (Intercourse) kay doran orgasm hasil karna zaroori nahi bul kay aurat agar mubashrat (Intercourse) sey pehley ya mubashrat kay baad dakhool (penetration) kay bajaey clitoral stimulation jo finger sey bhi ho sakta hai, sey bhi orgasm hasil karey to bhi woh bharpoor jinsi lutf hasil kar leti hai.     Aksar mahireen kay mutabiq lutf kay lehaz sey vaginal aur clitoral orgasm donon baraber hain magar Hite kay survey kay mutabiq vaginal orgasm ki nisbat clitoral orgasm zyada lutf angaez hai. In other words aurat kay jinsi lutf kay liye dakhool (penetration) zaroori nahi bul kay clitoris ko kisi bhi cheez maslan finger sey stimulate kar kay bharpoor jinsi lutf hasil kya ja sakta hai. Isi liye west mein 90% sey zyada khawateen musht zani (masturbation) kay doran bazer (Clitoris) hi ko stimulate karti hain. Vaginal orgasm ki soorat mein zaroori hai kay mard 5 ta 10 minute mubashrat (Intercourse) ko jari rakh sakey kyun kay aurat ko orgasm kay liye dakhool (penetration) kay baad 5 minutes sey zyada fast stroking ki zaroorat hai jab kay mardon ki bohut bari tadaad taqreeban 90% fitri tor per 2 ta 3.5 minutes sey zyada der tak mubashrat (Intercourse) jari nahi rakh saktey. Lehaza aurat kay orgasm kay liye bazer (Clitoris) ka stimulation zarori hai chahey finger sey hi kyun na ho. Albatta baaz khawateen sirf pistaan kay ishteaal (Breast Stimulation) sey bhi orgasm hasil kar leti hain aur kuch khawateen sirf imagination sey hi orgasm hasil kar leti hain. How To Get Orgasm - Sexual Climax  Ek aurat kay liye har bar orgasm hasil karna zaroori nahi hota. Bohut si aurton kay liye qurbat ka ahsas, touch honay ka ahsas, hath phaerna aur husband ki taraf sey foreplay zyada lutf angaez hota hai jis sey woh jinsi lutfaur sukoon hasil karleti hain. (Zakir) Aurton Kay Liye Har Bar Orgasm Hasil Karna Zaroori Hai? (How To Get Orgasm - Sexual Climax)     Aam khayal hai kay khushgawar azdawaji zindagi kay liye aurat ko mubashrat (Intercourse) mein har bar orgasm hasil karna chahiyie jab kay haqeeqat mein aisa nahi. 1994 mein America ki university ki ek research kay mutabiq sirf 33% sey kuch kam aurtein hamesha orgasm hasil karti hain. Shaadi kay shuru mein yani jawani mein aurtein kam orgasm hasil karti hain jab kay 30 saal kay baad aurtein zyada orgasm hasil karti hain. Ek survey mein 50% khawateen ney tasleem kya kay woh hamesha orgasm hasil nahi karti magar inki azdawaji zindagi bey hudd khushgawar hai. Doosri taraf bohut si khawateen ney bataya kay woh hamesha orgasm hasil karti hain magar inki azdawaji zindagi bohut khushgawar nahi. Agarcha khushgawar azdawaji zindagi kay liye orgasm zaroori hai magar sirf orgasm kafi nahi bul kay ek mohabbat aur khayal rakhney wala insan bhi zaroori hai. (Zakir: Stefan)

Islamic Method Of Intercourse

Es tarhan kabhi kabhar hymen mukammal tor per rupture nahi hota, essai bhi takleef hoti hai. Iss kay elawa vagina yeh vulva mein koi allergy yeh infection bhi hosakta hai. Usually mubashrat (Intercourse) koi takleefdai process nahi hai. Agar biwi mubashrat (Intercourse) kay doran pursukoon aur relax rahey to lutf aiga. Taham baaz auqat deep dakhool (penetration) aur zoor daar strokes bhi takleef ka sabab bantai hain. Usually mubashrat (Intercourse) ka pain pahla Chund martaba kay mubashrat (Intercourse) mein hota hai. Iss kay baad lutf hi lutf. (Mobeen)

Mubashrat (Intercourse) Ka Sharaee Tariqa:

    Mubashrat (Intercourse) kay bohut sey famous tareeqai hain. Famous method missionary tareeqa hai. Iss mein wife neechey jabkai husband ooper hota hai. Iss mein dakhool (penetration) easy hai magar iss mein penis bazer (Clitoris) ko touch nahi karta jiski wajha sey aurat zyada lutf andooz nahi hoti. Yeh tareeqa pre-mature inzaal (ejaculation) kay liye bhi munasib nahi. Hamara yaha yeh tareeqa hi sab sey zyada use hota hai. Baaz log jahalat ki wajha sey esko Islami tareeqa qarar daitain hain jiski wajha sey bohut si khawateen apnai husband ko mubashrat (Intercourse) ka koi dusra method use Karney nahi daitin. Halankay Hazrat Muhammad(P.BU.H) nai kisi tareeqai ko Islami tareeqa qarar nahi diya. Aurat kay zyada jinsi lutf kay liye mard neechey aur aurat ka ooper wala tareeqa zyada mufeed hai. Iss mein aurat apni marzi sey bazer (Clitoris) ko penis kay sath rub kar sakti hai aur pre-mature inzaal (ejaculation) kay liye bhi yeh tareeqa mufeed hai. 

Orgasm - Sexual Climax - Sexual Pleasure - Jinsi Lutf Ki Inteha

Madina mein shuru shuru mein missionary tareeqey kay elawa doosrey tareeqey raij nahi thay. Hazrat Jabir biyan kartey hain kay yahoodion ka kehna hai kay agar koi shohar apni biwi kay peechey ki taraf reh kar mubashrat (Intercourse) karey to iss surat mein bhaenga bacha paeda hoga chunancha "Tumhari biwian tumhari khaitiyan hain tum apni khwahish kay mutabiq apni khaition mein jao". Agar koi chahey to peechey ki taraf reh kar bhi mubashrat kar sakta hai lekin mubashrat sirf ek rastey faraj sey honi chahiyie. (Muslim) yahoodion kay asar ki wajah sey Madina mein ansar missionary method kay elawa doosrey methods ko jaeiz nahi samajhtey thay, Yahan tak kay Quran mein ayat nazil hui. 'Tumhari biwian tumhari khaitiyan hain tum apni khwahish kay mutabiq apni khaition mein jao' (Surah Baqra Ayat 223) albatta anus mein dakhool (penetration) haram hai. Orgasm (Sexual Climax)     Jinsi lutf ki intiha ko orgasm kaha jata hai. Mard aur aurat kay orgasm mein farq hai. Mard ka orgasm kay foran baad inzal (discharge) ho jata hai jab kay aurton ka mardon ki tarhan discharge nahi hota. Albatta 5% aurtein pani kharij karti hain. Mard orgasm ki hadd tak jald pohonch jata hai aur iss ka duration bhi kam hota hai aur woh jald normal halat mein aa jata hai. Jab kay aurat der sey orgasm hasil karti hai aur iss ka orgasm der tak rehta hai. Iss ko normal honay mein bhi zyada waqt lagta hai. Ek bara farq yeh hai kay mard taqreeban har bar orgasm hasil kar leta hai jab kay sirf 30% aurtein har bar orgasm hasil karti hain. 10% kabhi orgasm hasil nahi kartiin. Unko nafsiyati elaj aur baaz auqat operation ki zarorat parti hai.

Painful Intercourse -Takleef deh Mubashrat

Mubashrat (Intercourse) Aik Takleef Deh (painful) Amar…..?

     Azdwajii zindagi ki buniyad mubashrat (Intercourse) hai. Allah kay nabbi Hazrat Muhammad(P.B.U.H) nai jaiz tareeqai sey jinsi khwahish ki takmeel ko sadqa aur naiki qarar diya hai. Jiska zojain ko sawab milta hai. (Sahi Muslim)

  Pakistani muashrey mein yeh bat bohut famous hai kay khawateen kay liye mubashrat (Intercourse) aik bohut painful amal hai. Jiski wajha sey aksar khawateen jinsi amal sey khauf zada hoti hain. Yeh khawateen mubashrat (Intercourse) sey lutf andooz nahi hotin aur apnai husband kay sath cooperate nahi Karti. Jo biwi mubashirat mein apnai husband kay sath tawun na karai Allah kay nabbi Hazrat Muhammad (P.B.U.H) kay ershad kay mutabiq fareshtai sari rat usper lanat bhaijtain hain. (Muslim, Bukhari, Nesai)

     Buniyadi tor per mubashrat (Intercourse) husband wife dono kay liye bohut hi lutf aur sukoon daina wala amal hai. Quran mein ershad hai "Esnai tumhari hi jins sey tumharai liye jorai paeda karai taqai enkai sath milkar tum sukoon aur etminan hasil karoo" (Surah Rom Ayat 21)

     Agarcha shuru mein aik aad bar hymen kay rupture honay ki wajha sey khawateen ko kuch pain hota hai. Albatta baaz khawateen ko mubashrat (Intercourse) mein takleef (pain)hoti hai jo kay aik beemari hai jissai Dyspareunia kaha jata hai. Eski wajha ya to mubashrat (Intercourse) ka khauf hota hai yeh phir wajaina mein infection waghaira. Baaz auqat aurat mubashrat (Intercourse) kay liye puri tarhan tayar nahi hoti jiski wajha sey iss kay vagina mein lubrication nahi hoti. Chunancha aurat mubashrat (Intercourse) mein takleef mehsoos karti hai .

Bath During Periods - Taking Bath During Menses

Mahwaari (menses) ka pain aksar nafsiyati hota hai. Aksar larkiyon nai suna hota hai kay  mahwaari (menses) sey takleef hoti hai. Isliye woh mahwaari (menses) kay aghaz hi sey iss sey khauf zada hoti hain aur phir iss khauf ki wajha sey uterus mein stiffness aur takleef paeda hojati hai. Larkiyon ko yeh pata hona chahiya kay mahwaari (menses) koi takleef deh cheez nahi lehaza woh relax rahein. Iss sorat mein unko mahwaari (menses) ki takleef nahi hogi. Kuch khawateen ko mahwaari (menses) sey 2 ya 3 din pehley headache, backache, pait ka dard shuru ho jata hai aur inkay pistaan (Breast) swell ho jatey hain. Kuch khawateen ko puri mahwaari (menses) kay doran dard hota hai. Yeh sab kuch normal hai koi beemari nahi. Agar takleef kuch zyada ho to gynecologist sey contact karein.

Mahwaari Mein Nahana Khatarnak Hai?

(Bath During Periods - Taking Bath During Menses)

    Hamarey yahan kam parhi likhi khawateen mein yeh baat bohut hi famous hai kay mahwaari  mein nahaney (taking bath durng menses) aur organs ko pani waghaera sey saaf karney sey na sirf bohut si big beemariyan lag jati hain bul kay motapa bhi ho jata hai. Iss liye aksar khawateen inn dino pani sey perhaez karti hain. Halan kay mahwaari (menses) kay dinon mein larki ko daily apney jinsi aaza (female genital organs) ki safaee khas tor per karni chahiyie. Achi tarhan safaee na karney sey khoon ka kuch na kuch hissa yahan per jum kar smell paeda kar sakta hai. Lagataar kaee din tak safaee na karney sey inflammation ho sakti hai. Kharish aur halkey zakhm bhi ho saktey hain. Mahwaari (menses) kay doran ghusl ya jismani safaee kay liye mosam kay mutabiq hot ya cold water use kya ja sakta hai. Iss silsiley mein kisi ghalat fehmi ka shikar nahi hona chahiyie kay mahwaari (menses) kay doran nahana khatarnak sabit ho sakta hai. (Kawal Dheer) 

Bachpan (Childhood)

2. Bachpan (Childhood) 
       5,6 saal ki umer sey ley kar 12 saal tak (larkiyon kay liye) aur 14 saal tak (larkon kay liye) ka arsa bachpan kehlata hai. Iss daur mein bachon kay qadd aur wazen mein izafa hota rehta lekin baalak pan kay daur ki nisbat iss daur mein nashaunuma ki raftaar qadrey kam hoti hai. Bachpan kay daur kay aaghaz mein sehat mand bachey ka wazen 43 pound aur qadd 44 inch ho jata hai aur ikhtetaam per qadd taqreeban 5 feet ho jata hai aur wazen 95 ta 100 pound ho jata hai. Ibteda mein larkon ki nashaunuma ki raftaar larkiyon kay muqabley main taez hoti hai lekin 10 saal ki umar kay ba'ad larkiyon kay qadd aur 11 saal ki umer kay ba'ad unn kay wazen mein larkon ki nisbat zyada izafa honey lagta hai. Larkon ki harkaat aur unki jismani kaarkardagi larkiyon sey behter hoti hai. Larkey larkiyon sey taez aur tanumand hotey hain.
3. Baloghat (Puberty)
       Baloghat (puberty) ka daur larkiyon kay liye larkon ki nisbat 2 saal pehley shuru ho jata hai yani larkiyon kay liye iski ibtidaa amooman 12 saal ki umer mein ho jati hai aur larkon mein 14 saal mein. Ba'az bachiyan 9 saal ki umer mein baaligh ho jati hain. Meien Bahawalpur kay ilaqey mein ek 10 saala maan dekhi. Garam ilaqo'n mein bachey jald jawan ho jatey hain. Isi tarah uryaani, beyhayaee aur fahashi kay mahol mein bhi bachey ek do saal pehley baaligh ho jatey hain. Isliye Europe aur America mein bachey ab nisbatan jald baligh ho jatey hain.

Body Changes During Puberty

Baloghat  (puberty) mein bachon kay jism mein haerat angaez tabdeeliyan ru numa hoti hain. Qadd, wazen aur a'aza mein tezi sey izafa hota hai. Yeh izafa larkon mein 13 sey 15 saal ki umer kay darmiyan hota hai. Iss daur mein inn kay qadd mein kam o baesh 8 inch ka izafa ho jata hai aur wazen 40 pound tak barh jata hai. Larkiyon kay qadd mein 11 sey 13 saal ki umer kay darmiyan 5, 6 inch ka izafa ho jata hai. Iss kay ba'ad qadd aur wazen barhney ki raftaar sust ho jati hai. Haddiyon mein phelao aa jata hai, kandhey khuley ho jatey hain.     Iss daur kay aaghaz sey hi bachon kay jism mein aisi tabdeeliyan honay lagti hain jin sey mard aur aurat mein farq wazeh ho jata hai. Larkon kay gaal per baal aaney shuru ho jatey hain, larkiyon ki chaatiyan ubharney lagti hain, baghlon kay elawa donon kay zer e naaf baal ugg aatey hain. Donon kay liye zer e naaf baal saaf karna sunnat hai. Larkiyon ko mahwaari (menses) ka khoon aana shuru ho jata hai aur larkon ko ehtelam (nocturnal ejaculation) honay lagta hai. Iss daur mein larkiyan, larkon ki nisbat zyada dilkash nazar aati hain. Ab donon jinsi aur azdawaji faraez ada karney kay qabil ho jatey hain.     Taaza tareen research kay mutabiq America mein larkiyon mein baloghat ka aaghaz 8 ta 13 saal ki umer kay doran chatiyon kay ubharney sey hota hai. Iss doran unn kay hips aur buttocks bhi barhney lagtey hain. Chaatiyon kay ubharney kay kuch arsa ba'ad zer e naaf baal aa jatey hain. 2 saal ba'ad baghlon mein baal aaney lagtey hain. Taqreeban 13 saal ki umr mein larkiyon ko pehli mahwari aati hai magar larki uss waqt tak hamla nahin hoti jab tak  Ovulation shuru nahin ho jati jo amooman pehli mahwaari kay 2 saal ba'ad hoti hai. Bohut kamzor aur dubli patli larkiyon ki mahwari ka aaghaz zara der sey hota hai.     American larkon mein baloghat ka aaghaz 2 saal ba'ad 10 ta 13 saal ki umer kay doran zer e naaf baal aaney sey hota hai. Ek saal kay ba'ad larkon kay zakar (penis) ka size barhna shuru ho jata hai. Zer e naaf balon kay taqreeban 2 saal ba'ad larkon ki baghlon aur chehrey per baal aa jatey hain. Zer e naaf baalon kay taqreeban 1.5 saal ba'ad 13 ya 14 saal ki umer mein larkon ko pehley inzal ka tajurba hota hai iss sey pehley jinsi suroor (orgasm) to tha magar inzal na tha. 15 saal ki umer mein mani mein mojood sperms pakhta (mature) ho jatey hain jis sey bacha paeda ho sakta hai. Amooman pehley inzal jo kay khud lazzati (masturbation) sey hota hai kay ba'ad ehtelam (nocturnal ejaculation) shuru ho jata hai. Jo larkey khud lazzati nahin kartey unn ka pehla inzal ehtelam hota hai. (Hyde)      Jismani tabdeeliyon kay elawa zehni aur nafsiyati tabdeeliyan bhi aati hain. Bachey bey ja khauf aur wahem ka shikar ho jatey hain. Unn ki jazbati zindagi per jinsi khwashihat (libido) hawi ho jati hain. Jins e mukhalif ki shadeed kashish mehsoos hoti hai. Iss daur mein jinsi beyrahrawi (sexual perversion) ka shadeed khatra hota hai. Iss umer mein bacho'n ko walaedaen ki mohabbat aur rehnumaee ki zyada zaroorat hoti hai.

Sex Education And Islam - Islami Jinsi Talim

Aur yeh bhi haqeeqat hai kay bachey ko agar sahi zaryey sey malumat na milein to phir woh galat aur tabah kun zaryey sey gumraah kun malumat hasil karta hai aur inhi malumat ka asar hai kay naujawan tabqa jinsi aur akhlaqi tor per tabahi kay kinarey per khara hai.       Humarey khayal mein jinsi talim bachon ko ghar hi sey miley. 9/10 saal ki umer mein maan beti ko aur baap betey ko yeh ta'aleem deni shuru kardey. Research sey sabit ho chuka hai kay bachey walaedaen sey jinsi malumat hasil karney ko tarjeeh detey hain. Iss liye yeh baat bey hudd zaroori hai kay walaedaen khud Quran o sunnah aur jadeed tehqeeq ki roshni mein taza aur sahi ma'aloomat hasil karein ta'kay woh agli nasal ko yeh ma'aloomat muntaqil kar kay ek pursukoon aur behter mua'ashirey ki bunyaad rakhein. Walaedaen kay elawa teachers ko bhi yeh malumat hasil karni chahiyien ta'kay woh hasb e zaroorat bachon ki rehnumaee kar sakein.     Yeh talim bachon ko ek dum nahin bul kay marhala waar milni chahiyie ta hum shaadi sey pehley jinsi talim ki takmeel ho jani chahiyie. Iss talim mein bachon ko apney jismani a'aza (anatomy) aur unn kay functions (physiology) kay hawaley sey malumat fraham ki jaein. Iss kay elawa mubashrat, halal, haram, hamal, paeda'esh aur jinsi beemariyon waghaera kay hawaley sey malumat dii jaein. Khusoosan jins kay hawaley sey jitney mughalitey hain unn ki haqeeqat sey bachon ko aagah kya jaey.     Iss kay elawa bachon ko yeh talim o tarbiyat bhi dii jaey kay unhoney apney aap ko jinsi tashaddud (sexual abuse) sey kis tarah bachana hai. Physical Development of Infants Jismani Nashaunuma (Physical Development)     Insaan paeda hotey hi mukammal mard ya aurat nahin ban jata. Paeda'esh sey ley kar burhapey tak insan ko kaee manazil taey karna hoti hain. Insani jismani nashaunuma ki teen ma'aroof manazil hain Baalak pan (Infants) Bachpan     (Childhood) Baloghat     (Puberty) Baalak pan (Infants) Baalak pan ka aaghaz bachey ki paeda'esh sey  hota hai. Sehat mand bacha amooman 280 din kay ba'ad paeda hota hai. Baalak pan mein bachey kay qadd aur wazen mein bohut taezi sey izafa hota hai. Paeda'esh kay waqt ek sehat mand bachey ka weight 6 ta 9 pounds hota hai aur qadd taqreeban 18 inches kay lug bhug hota hai. Pehley saal kay aakhir tak wazen mein 3 guna aur qadd mein 40% kay hisab sey izafa ho jata hai. Doosrey saal mein bachey ki nashaunuma qadrey sust ho jati hai jo agley 2 saal mein mazeed sust ho jati hai. Ma'aroof mahir e nafsiyat Watson kay mutabiq 2 saal ki umer mein bachey ka average qadd 32,33 inches aur wazen 27 pounds ho jata hai jab kay 5 saal ki umer mein bachey ka qadd paeda'esh kay waqt sey do guna aur wazen 5 guna ho jata hai. Bachon ki jismani nashaunuma per jinsi ikhtilafaat ka asar numaya'n hota hai, paeda'esh kay waqt male bacha qadd, wazen aur jisamat kay lehaz sey female bachey sey bara hota hai. Yeh farq baalak pan kay poorey arsey mein qa'em rehta hai.

Sex Education For Children

Magar bacho'n ko sex education marhala waar milni chahiyien maslan 10, 11 saal kay larkon ko ilm ho kay sotey mein inn kay penis sey ek khaas qism ka safaed liquid kharij ho sakta hai jo kay bilkul fitri cheez hai na kay koi beemari. Iss tarah bachiyon ko to 10 saal ki umer mein yeh ilm ho jana chahiyie kay unn ki faraj sey khoon nikal sakta hai jo kay baloghat ki alamat hai na kay koi khatarnaak beemari.      Humarey haan yeh ajeeb baat hai kay log bachon ko jinsi taalem (sex education) fraham karney ko bura samajhtey hain, hala'n kay yeh talim deegar ashkaal mein mufassal tor per school, college aur university ki satah per biology, physiology, anatomy, gynecology aur psychology kay mazameen kay students ko dii jati hai. Allah ta'ala ney Quran majeed aur Hazrat Muhammad ney ahadees mein tafseel kay sath yeh zaroori aur fitri ma'aloomaat fraham kii hain, yani yeh bari ajeeb baat hai kay jis baat ko Quran aur sahib e Quran bataein hum usey batatey huey sharmaein. Kya bachon ko paki, na paki kay baarey mein ma'aloomat nahin milni chahiyien, kya naujawano'n ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay ehtelam (nocturnal ejaculation) aur mubashrat (intercourse) kay ba'ad ghusl farz ho jata hai. Aisi soorat e haal mein ghusl kis tarah karna hai, kya inn ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay qatro'n kay ikhraj sey ghusl farz nahin hota. Bohut sey naujawan namaz parhney mein iss liye bhi kotahi kartey hain kay woh inn qatro'n ko paleed samajhtey hain hala'n kay yeh qatrey napaak nahin hotey. Iss soorat mein sirf penis ko dho lena aur wuzu kar lena kafi hai. Kya naujawano'n ko yeh nahin ma'aloom hona chahiyie kay mani (seminal fluid) koi qeemti cheez nahin aur na hi peeshab pakahnaey ki tarah napaak hai. Khush mani ko ragerr kar saaf kya ja sakta hai. Isi tarah kya naujawano'n ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay  Hum jinsiyat (homosexuality) na sirf gunah hai bul kay khatarnak jinsi bemariyon khusoosan AIDS waghaera kay phaelney ka mu'asser zarya hai. Kya naujawan nasal ko iss baat ka ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay mian biwi kay jinsi ta'alluqaat per sharmindagi ki koi baat nahin, yeh koi buri cheez nahin. Allah kay nabi ney biwi kay sath mubaashirat ko naeki aur sadqa qaraar diya hai. Iss tarah kyalarkiyon ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kayhaez koi bemari nahin bul kay ek fitri cheez hai jo inn ki baloghat aur takmeel ki alamat hai. Kya bachiyon ko yeh ilm nahin hona chahiyie kay leucorrhea koi beemari nahin.     Agar aap bachon ko Quran o sunnah aur jadeed ilm ki roshni mein khud jinsi ta'aleem nahin deingey to bachey yeh ma'aloomat apney doston, deewaro'n per ishtehaaraat aur ghaer meyari kutub sey hasil kareingey jo taqreeban 100% ghalat aur gumrahkun hoti hain. Ek research kay mutabiq bachey taqreeban 50% jinsi ma'aloomat doston aur 21% kutub sey hasil kartey hain(Hyde). Budqismati sey bacho'n kay doston ki ma'aloomaat durust hoti hain na hi humarey haan iss mozou per meyaru kutub mojood hain.     Iss hawaley sey ek sawal yeh paeda hota hai kay bachon ko jinsi taleem kab dii jaey. Iss silsiley mein Quran majeed sey rehnumaee milti hai. Who bachey jinki madri zuban urdu hai woh ju'nhi Quran Majeed parhna shuru kartey hain unn ki sex education bhi shuru ho jati hai. Amooman bachey 9 ya 10 saal ki umer mein Quran majeed parhna shuru kar detey hain. Mashhoor huftroza Time kay ek survey kay mutabiq awam ki aksaryat ka khayal hai kay jinsi ta'aleem 12 saal ki umer sey shuru ho jab kay walaedaen ka khayal hai kay bachon ki jinsi ta'aleem baloghat sey pehley shuru  nahin honi chahiyie magar haqeeqat yeh hai kay bacha apni jinsi ta'aleem apney ibtedaee saalon mein shuru kar deta hai

Jinsi Taleem Ki Zaroorat

Importance Of Sex Education - Jinsi Taleem Ki Zaroorat

Mardon ko, aurton ko, bachiyon ko, jawano'n ko, hutta kay boorhon ko bhi aam taaleem  ki tarah jinsi taaleem(sex education) ki zaroorat hai, khusoosan naey shadi shuda couples ko khushgawar azdwajii zindagi kay liye jinsi taaleem ki sakht zaroorat hai. Magar yeh taaleem inn ko Quran aur jaded tehqeeq ki roshni mein sha'estigi kay sath milni chahiyie. Chu'n kay humarey haan iss tarah ka koi intezam nahin jis ka nateeja yeh hai kay naujawan nasal neem hakeemon, ataiyo'n, dewaro'n per ishtehaaraat aur ghaer meyari kutub sey jinsi ma'aloomat hasil karti hai jo kay aksar ghalat, gumraah kun aur tabah kun hoti hain. Inn ghalat ma'aloomaat ki wajah sey humarey mu'aashrey mein bohut sey jinsi masail paeda ho chukey hain jo kay normal azdawaji zindagimein bohut bari rukawat sabit ho rahey hain, jis ki wajah sey bohut si shadiya'n naakaam ho jati hain, shohar pagal ho jatey hain aur kuch bey charey khudkushi kar letey hain.     Jinsi taaleem (sex education) na sirf azdawaji zindagi ko khushgawar banati hai bul kay iss ki madad sey jinsi jara'em maslan incest, zina biljabr aur doosrey jinsi gunaah masaln hum jinsiyat waghaera ko kam kiya ja sakta hai. Jinsi khwahish (libido) bohut taez aur mu'nh zor hoti hai jo fard ko jinsi gunah aur jara'em per majboor kar deti hai, iss kay elawa sex education ki madad sey ahem jinsi masail maslan surat e inzal (premature ejaculation) aur mardana jinsi kamzori (erectile dysfunction) waghaera ka tadaruk bhi kya ja sakta hai.     Maghrib mein jinsi taaleem, ta'aleemi idaro'n mein dii jati hai magar wahan ta'aleem amooman bacho'n ko zina per aamaada karti hai. Waisey mahireen ka khayal hai kay bacho'n ko jinsi taaleem deney kay liye walaedaen sab sey zyada mozoon hain na kay ta'aleemi idaarey. Baap betey ko aur maan beti ko yeh taaleem dey. Lehaza walaedaen ko iss hawaley sey zyada sey zyada ma'aloomaat hasil karni chahiyien ta'kay woh aaney wali nasal ko yeh ilm muntaqil kar sakein.

Sex Education in urdu for women

Sex Education

 Aala ta'aleem kay ba'ad America sey wapsi per meine Bahawalpur division kay ek chotey sey sheher Chishtiya'n main apna anfsiyati clinic shuru kya. Mera pehla mareez ek ma'amooli parha likha dehaati naujawan tha jis ki inhi dino'n shadi hui thi magar yeh naujawan kaee maah guzarney kay bawajood apni biei sey azdawajii ta'alluqaat qa'em karney mein kaamyaab na hosaka. Doctors kay mutabiq woh bilkul normal tha yani usey koi jismani masla nahi tha. Pehli mulaqat mein uss kay masley per amoomi guftugoo hui phir usey elaj kay liye chund din ba'ad bulaya magar who na aaya, mein bhi uss naujawan  ko bhool gaya. Ek maah ba'ad achanak uss kay barey bhaee sey mulaqat hui, meine uss naujawan kay muta'alliq poocha, uski aankh sey aansoo nikal aaey uss ney aansoo ponchtey huey bataya kay uss ney khudkushi karli. 

    Dar asal woh abhi tak azdawajii ta'alluqaat qa'em na kar paya tha, uss ko yaqeen tha kay who iss qaabil nahin haala'n kay uss kay saarey tests normal thay, phir sharmindagi sey bachney kay liye ek andheri raat biwi ko ley kar ga'on sey baher aaya pehley biwi ko ek darakht kay sath latka diya phir khud bhi ussi darakht kay sath jhool gaya. Haqeeqat yeh thi kay usey koi jinsi masla nahin tha, uska masala sirf nafsiyati tha. Uss ney humein mohlat na dii kay hum uski madad kartey haala'n kay aaj kay ilmi daur mein iss tarah kay masley ko aasaani sey hal kya ja sakta hai. Hum iss tarah kay masail har roz hal kartey hain.

Sexual Life In Islam - Jinsi Zindagi Aur Islami Talimat

Guzishta dino'n mujhey ek khatoon ney phone kya aur bataya kay uski shaadi ko 8 saal ho chukey hain magar abhi tak unn kay azdawaji ta'alluqaat qa'em nahin huey. Biwi ney apney mian ko elaj kay liye bhijwaya Khuda kay fazal sey humarey elaj sey unki khushyan bahaal ho gaee'n. Islami Talimat Aur Jinsi Zindagi (Sexual Life In Islam)     Islam ek mukammal zabta e hayat hai jiss ney apney paero kaaro'n ko zindagi kay har shobey mein rehnumaee fraham ki hai. "Jinsi Zindagi" (sexual life) insaani zindagi ka ahem tareen pehlu hai. Chunancha Allah ney Hazrat Adam kay sath Amma Hawwa ko paeda farmaya. Quran Majeed mein irshad hai kay, "uss ney tumharey liye tumhari hi jins sey biwiya'n bana'een ta'kay tum unn kay paas sukoon hasil karo" (Surah Rome Ayat 21) Isi liye Allah kay nabi ney farmaya kay nikah meri sunnat hai jiss ney iss per amal na kiya woh hum mein sey nahin. Hazrat Muhammad ney ek aur jagah farmaya "Allah haq baat kehney sey nahin sharmata". Chunancha Quran mein jinsi zindagi kay ahem usolo'n maslan shaadi (marriage), mubashrat (intercourse), mubashrat kay tariqey (sex positions), mani (seminal fluid), rehem e madar, haez (menses), hamal (pregnancy) aur uss kay mukhtalif adwaar, bachey ki paeda'esh, zina (adultery) aur hum jinsiyat (homosexuality) waghaera ka zikr hai. Doosri taraf Allah kay nabi ney bhi bari tafseel kay sath jinsi zindagi kay mukhtalif pelu per roshni daali hai. Bud qismati sey hum mein sey aksar log iss sey aagaah nahin. Khushgawar azdawaji zindagi kay liye ilm ki zaroorat hai. Kisi ney khoob kaha hai kay 'Knowledge is power and sexual knowledge is super power' chunancha merey khayal mein Pakistan mein har fard ko jinsi ta'aleem ki zaroorat hai.

ladki ko sexually satisfied karne ka tareeqa

Aurton Kay Jinsi Aazaa (Female Genital Organs)

    Mard aur aurat kay genitals mein bohut farq hai. Iss farq ki wajah sey dono ek doosrey sey alag alag hain. Aurat kay genitals ko 2 parts mein divide kya ja sakta hai. 

1. Woh organs jinko hum bahir sey dekh saktey hain.
2. Woh organs jo jism kay ander hotey hain aur jinko hum dekh nahi saktey hain.

    Aurat kay baerooni aaza (external genitals) ko Vulva kaha jata hai. Jis hissey per baal hotey hain inko Labia majora kaha jata hai. Inn lips kay ander waley lips ko Labia Minora kaha jata hai. Labia Minora sexually bohut hi sensitive hotey hain.

Female Genital Organs - Vagina

Agar labia majora ko kuch khola jaey to aap dekhein gey kay sab sey neechey vagina hai, yeh ooper neechey 2 walls hoti hain jo kay aapas mein mili hoti hain. Vagina ki length 3.5 to 4.5 inches hai aur average 4 inch hoti hai. Mard iss mein mubashrat (Intercourse) karta hai. Isi sey mahwaari (menses) ka khoon bahir ata hai. Issi sey bachey ki paedaesh hoti hai. Vagina kay mouth kay kuch ander ek membrane hoti hai jisko hymen kaha jata hai.     Vagina kay kuch ooper peeshab ki nali hoti hai jis kay zariye urine bladder sey bahir aata hai. Iss kay ooper jahan labia minora khatam hoti hai waha bazer (Clitoris) hota hai jo pea sead kay baraber chicken ki kalghi ki tarhan hota hai. Iss ka size ¼ to 1/5 inch hota hai. Iss kay ooper ek hood hota hai. Sexually aurat ka sab sey sensitive part yehi hai. Jinsi lutf kay elawa iss ka koi aur maqsad ya kaam nahi.     Aurat kay internal genitalia mein ahem tareen organ G spot hai. Bazer (Clitoris) kay baad sexually yeh second sensitive part hai. Isey ek german gynecologist Earnest Grafenberg ney discover kya aur yeh issi kay name sey famous bhi hai. Agar aurat face aasmaan ki taraf kar kay letey to yeh uski umbilicus kay neechey vagina ki ooper wali wall mein 1 ta 1.5 inch ander ki taraf hota hai. Yeh ek chotey lobia ki shakal ka hota hai. Iski stimulation sey aurat zabardast orgasm hasil karti hai. Magar yeh orgasm musht zani (masturbation) aur mubashrat (Intercourse) kay orgasm sey mukhtalif hota hai. G spot kay stimulation sey 54% aurtein pani kharij karti hain.  Vagina kay end per uterus hota hai jis mein baby ki growth hoti hai. Uterus amrood ki shape ka hota hai. Iss ki walls moti aur muscles ki bani hui hoti hain. Uterus ka munh vagina mein khulta hai. Uterus kay dono taraf left aur right 2 tubes hoti hain. Inko fallopian tubes kaha jata hai. Yeh tubes ek taraf uterus sey mili hoti hain aur doosrey end per ovaries sey mili hoti hain. Ovaries 2 hoti hain. Ovaries mein lakhon ki ta'adaad mein eggs hotey hain. Har month sirf ek egg ki growth hoti hai. Yeh egg left ya right kisi bhi ek ovary mein tayyar ho sakta hai. Qudrati tor per har month bari bari ovaries mein sey kisi ek sey egg nikalta hai. Ovulation kay waqt ek egg kisi ek ovary sey nikal kar fallopian tube mein aa jata hai. Doosri taraf sey mard ka sperm aata hai. Donon kay milney sey pregnancy ho jati hai. Yeh egg aur sperm mil jatey hain to phir uterus mein aa jatey hain. Jahan baby ki growth hoti hai.  Bara Bazer (Clitoris) Zyada Jinsi Khwahish Ki Alamat?      Individual difference ki wajha sey different khawateen kay bazer (Clitoris) ka size different hota hai. Aurat ka sexually most sensitive yehi part hai. Qadeem zamaney sey yeh khayal chala aa raha hai kay jin aurton ka bazer (Clitoris) big hota hai woh zyada jinsi khwahish (libido) rakhti hain. Parda e Bakarat  Yani jitna big bazer (Clitoris) utni hi zyada jinsi khwahish. Doosri taraf woh aurtein jinka bazer (Clitoris) chota hota hai unki jinsi khwahish kam (low libido) hoti hai. Iss liye big bazer (Clitoris) wali aurton kay bazer (Clitoris) kay ooper wala kuch hissa cut kar diya jata hai takay zyada jinsi khwahish aur jazbat ki wajah sey woh sexually zyada active ho kar beyrahrawi ikhtiyar kar kay family ki badnaami ka sabab na banein. Aaj bhi Egypt aur doosri African countries aur America kay baaz hisson mein bazer (Clitoris) ka circumcision hota hai. Jab ka es nazariya ki koi haqeeqat nahi. Dekha gaya hai kay aisi aurtein jin kay bazer (Clitoris) ka size big hai woh sexually zyada active nahi hotiin. Doosri taraf woh aurtein jinka bazer (Clitoris) chota hai woh zyada active hoti hain.  Parda e Bakarat (Hymen):      Pakistan kay baaz elaqon mein suhag raat mein bed per white bedsheet bichai jati hai takay aurat ki virginity check ki ja sakey. Agar pehli raat bed per khoon laga hai to aurat ko virgin samjha jata hai warna iss ko foran divorce dey di jati hai. Yani agar khoon na nikley to isko badkirdar samjha jata hai. Hymen ki majoodgi ya adum-mojoodgi aurat ki virginity ka sign nahi. Merey ek naujawan client ney meri ek workshop "Shadi ki bharpoor khushi---Masail aur hal" mein shirkat kari aur phir iss ki shadi ho gaee. Shaadi kay next day us ka phone aya. Woh bohut hi pareshan tha aur biwi ko divorce deney ka soch raha tha. Pareshan iss liye tha kay iss ney successful mubashrat (Intercourse) kii magar iss raat uski biwi ko khoon nahi aya.

Female Masturbation - Khawateen Mein Musht Zani

Tahem sexually sensitivity kay lehaz sey pistaan (Breast) ka number 3rd hai jiska size kay sath koi ta'alluq nahi. Agarcha big pistaan (Breast) dekhney mein khubsoorat lagtey hain (Har shakhs ko nahi) magar aurat ki bharpoorazdawaji zindagi mein pistaan (Breast) size ki koi khas ahmiyat nahi bul kay tareeqa ahem hai. Jinka ham apni next book "Azdawaji Khushiyan" mein tafseel ka sath zikar karaingai. (Dastoor) 

Chotey Pistaan (Breast) Mein Doodh Ki Kami Hoti Hai?

    Kuch arsa pehley ek sahib ney mujhey call ki. Inki new marriage thee. Woh apni wife ka pistaan (Breast) size kay hawaley sey fikarmand thay jo kay unkay khayal mein bohut hi chotay thay. Inko bataya gaya kay pistaan (Breast) size kay aurat ki jinsi zindagi kay sath koi ta'alluq nahi. Inko asal fikar iss baat ki thee kay inn mein itna milk aa jaey ga kay inn ka babies ka pait bhar sakey. Yani woh bharpoor andaz sey apney bachon ko feed kar sakey gi. Pistaan (Breast) chahey kitna hi chotey kyun na ho milk paeda karney mein kotahi nahi kartey hain. Kisi aur wajah sey milk mein kami ho sakti hai magar pistaan (Breast) kay chotey honay sey milk mein kami nahi hoti. 

Khawateen Mein Musht Zani: (Female Masturbation)

    Mardon ki tarhan aurtein bhi sexual satisfaction kay liye khud lazzati karti hain. Famous researcher Kinsey ka mutabiq mardon kay muqabley mein aurtein kam musht zani (masturbation) karti hain.

Hite kay survey kay mutabiq 82% American khawateen musht zani (female masturbation) karti hain jab kay 95%orgasm hasil kar leti hain. Interesting baat yeh hai kay mard baloghat kay ibtedai daur mein zyada musht zani (masturbation) kartey hain jab kay American khawateen zyada tar 30 years ki age kay baad musht zani (masturbation) karti hain. Ek aur survey kay mutabiq America mein musht zani (masturbation) karney wali 18 years ki girls ki taadaad 59% hai jab kay 18 years kay boys ki ta'adad 80% hai. Ek aur report kay mutabiq west mein zyada ter khawateen 40 ya 50 years ki age mein zyada musht zani (masturbation) karti hain. 1985 ki ek research ka mutabiq America mein 66% un-married aur 56% married khawateen musht zani (masturbation) karti hain.

    America mein aurton ko musht zani (masturbation) ki baqaida training di jati hai takay agar husband wife ko satisfy na kar sakey to woh khud hi apney aap ko jinsi sukoon muhayya kar lein. Pakistan mein khawateen mein musht zani (masturbation) ki aadat kam hai. Merey paas sirf ek larki iss masley kay elaj kay liye aaee. Tahem meri ek student khatoon mahir e nafsiyat ka khayal hai kay hamarey yahan bhi khawateen mein musht zani (masturbation) kuch kam nahi. Aurtein mubashrat (Intercourse) mein taqreeban 5 to 10 minute mein orgasm hasil karti hain. Sherry Hite kay survey kay mutabiq musht zani (masturbation) mein aurtein usually 4 minutes mein orgasm hasil kar leti hain.  

    Aam logon ka khayal hai kay aurtein zyada tar vagina mein koi cheez insert kar kay musht zani (masturbation) karti hain. Jab kay haqeeqat mein aisa nahi. Kinsey aur Hite ki research aur doosrey survey ka mutabiq zyada tar aurtein bazer (Clitoris) ko stimulate kar kay musht zani (masturbation) karti hain kyun kay yeh aurton ka sexually sab sey sensitive part hai.

Female Nocturnal Emission - Khawateen Ka Ehtelam

Bazer (Clitoris) aurat kay vulva kay labia minora kay bilkul ooper waley hissey mein chicken ki kalghi ki tarhan hota hai. Jo sexually stimulation mein hard ho jata hai aur orgasm hasil karney sey pehley ek dam dheela ho jata hai. Hite kay survey kay mutabiq sirf 1.5% American khawateen vagina mein koi cheez insert kar kay musht zani(masturbation) karti hain.     Agarcha zyada tar aurtein bazer ko mushtael (Clitoral Stimulation) kar kay orgasm hasil karti hain. Hite kay survey kay mutabiq kuch American khawateen vagina kay ander bhi koi cheez insert karti hain. Bohut thori ta'adad anus aur urethra mein koi cheez insert kar kay bhi jinsi lutf hasil karti hai. Anus aur urethra mein koi cheez insert karna khatarnak ho sakta hai. Iss sey har surat bacha jai. Khawateen Ka Ehtelam: (Female Nocturnal Emission)     Jis tarhan mardon ko ehtelam hota hai issi tarhan aurton ko jinsi khwab aatey hain. Iss kaifiyat mein aurat kay bazer (Clitoris) ka size zyada ho jata hai aur vagina mein lubrication  paeda ho jati hai aur aurat orgasm hasil kar leti hai. Iss soorat mein aurat per ghusl farz nahi hota. Lekin agar aurat kay vagina sey pani kharij ho jaey to ghusl farz ho jata hai.  Hazrat Umm e Salmah farmati hain kay unhoney arz kara kay Hazrat Muhammad(P.B.U.H)! Allah haq baat karney sey haya nahi farmata

Menses - Mahwaari

kiya jab aurat ko ehtelam ho to usper nahana wajib hai. Hazrat Muhammad (P.B.U.H) ney farmaya han, jab pani dekhey (Bukhari, Muslim) taham iss sey roza nahi tootta.

Mahwaari (menses)

    Mein club sey wapis aya hi tha ka biwi ney mujhey bataya kay meri ek cousin aaj bey hosh ho gaee aur iss ko doctor kay pass ley jaya gaya. Mein pareshan ho gaya aur foran doctor sey contact kya aur maloom hua kay usko first time mahwaari (menses) aaee hai. Chunkey iss ko iss ka kuch pata nahi tha iss liye woh khoon dekh kar khauf zada ho kar bey hosh hogaee. Larki jab baloghat ki manzil mein dakhil hoti hai to iss kay jism mein ahem tareen change yeh aata hai kay iss ko mahwaari (menses) aaney lagti hai. Yeh ek fitri function hai. Yeh Allah ka inam hai kay iss sey aurat ki takmeel ho jati hai aur woh mother banney kay qabil ho jati hai. Mother jo duniya mein sab sey mohtaram hasti hai, jis kay qadmon mein jannat hai.

    Mahwaari (menses) usually 6 ta 16 saal ki umer mein shuru hoti hai. Zyada tar larkiyon ko 10 ta 14 saal kay doran shuru hoti hai jo usually 2 ta 8 din aur zyada tar 4 ta 6 din jari rehti hai. Agar yeh 18 saal kay baad bhi shuru na ho to kisi doctor sey mashwara kya jaey. Larkiyon ko iss age sey pehley iss ka pata hona chahiyie takay woh khaufzada ho kay beyhosh na hojaein. Mahwaari (menses) ki duration Islam mein kam sey kam 3 din aur 3 raat hai yani poorey 72 hours aur zyada sey zyada 10 din aur 10 raat hai. Imam Maalik aur Imam Shafai kay nazdeek ek mahwaari (menses) ki zyada sey zyada duration 15 din hai jab kay Imam Abu Hanifa kay nazdeek 10 din hai.

Mahwaari Mein Mood Ki Tabdeeliyan

Jin larkiyon ko shuru shuru mein mahwaari (menses) sahi time per nahi aati hai inko bhi kuch arsey kay baad khud hi mahwaari (menses) sahi waqt per aur regular honay lagti hai. Baloghat kay ibtidaee daur mein mahwaari (menses) usually irregular hoti hai. Agar mahwaari (menses) mein bohut zyada irregularity ya khoon flow ho ya khoon ka ikhraj bohut zyada miqdar mein honay lagey to kisi achey doctor sey contact karein. (Kawal Dheer)     Menstrual cycle mamooli diseases maslan flu waghaera sey disturb ho jata hai. Iss tarhan tension, udaasi, depression, anxiety, stress, khauf, trauma aur kharab general sehat ki wajah sey bhi disturb ho kar band ho jata hai. Lehaza inn dino aap ki sehat achi honi chahiyie aur aap ko zehni tor per pur sukoon hona chahiyie.     Menstrual cycle kay doran aurat kay mood mein changes (premenstrual syndrome) aati hain maslan ovulationkay waqt aurat ka mood positive hota hai. Iss ka self confidence aur self esteem urooj per hotey hain. Magar mahwaari (menses) sey 2 ta 7 din pehley mood negative ho jata hai. Iss doran khawateen ki big ta'adad 75% sey bhi zyada tension, depression, anxiety, irritability, thakawat, death aur paralyze honay ka shadeed khauf mehsoos karti hain.

Menses Cycle - Haezi Chakkar - Mahwaari

Mahwaari (menses) kay elawa kisi beemari ki wajah sey bhi khoon aata hai jis sey istihaza kehtey hain aur child birth kay baad aaney wala khoon nifas kehlata hai. (Mobeen)      Menses cycle usually 28 din ka hota hai. Yani har 28 din kay baad mahwaari (menses) hoti hai. Magar baaz khawateen ka cycle kam days (22 days) aur baaz ka zyada (40 days) ka bhi ho sakta hai. Yeh badal bhi sakta hai yani kabhi 28 days aur kabhi 32 days ka. Yeh sab kuch normal hai. Mahwaari kay shuru mein red aur blackish khoon aata hai. Yani yeh khoon bilkul red nahi hota shuru mein yeh zyada aata hai magar ek din baad iss ki miqdar kam hojati hai. 3rd aur 4th day iss ka colour change ho jata hai. Hatta ka yeh ratoobat bilkul khatam ho jati hai. Iss ki miqdar sab larkiyon mein baraber nahi hoti. Kisi ka zyada aur kisi ka kam. Mahwaari (menses) sara khoon nahi hota. Iss mein 50% khoon aur baqi doosra material hota hai aur yeh khoon doosrey khoon ki tarhan jamta nahi hai. Hamal (Pregnancy) kay doran mahwaari (menses) band hojati hai. Magar baaz auqat jari rehti hai. Aisa bohut hi kam hota hai. Iss mein pareshan honay ki zaroorat nahi aur na hi iss ka elaj karaney ki zaroorat nahi. Mahwaari (menses) ka silsila usually 45 years tak chalta hai aur phir band ho jata hai. Kabhi kabhi mahwaari (menses) shuru honay kay waqt iss kay cycle mein kharabi hojati hai. Baaz larkiyon ko zindagi mein first time mahwaari (menses) aaney kay baad 2nd time ya next time mahwaari (menses) 28 din kay baad nahi aati bul kay kuch haftey (weeks) ya kuch months kay baad aatey hain. Kuch larkiyon ko shuru hi sey mahwaari (menses) baqaida waqt per aaney lagti hai.

ladkiyon ki jinsi masail

Pregnancy Without Intercourse - Hamal Baghaer Mubashrat

Inn jinsi tasawwurat mein aurat kisi kay sath foreplay aur mubashrat  sey lutfandoz hoti hai. Agar yeh tasawwurat zaroorat sey zyada hun to phir yeh normal azdawaji zindagi mein rukawat sabit hotey hain. Meri ek 28 saala married client apney husband kay sath mubashrat (Intercourse) mein bharpoor shirkat nahi karti. Iss ney mujhey bataya kay woh tasawwur ki madad sey zyada jinsi lutf hasil kar leti hai aur woh 6 or 7 saal ki umer sey tasawwurat ki madad sey lutf hasil karti aa rahi hai. (Hyde)  Aurat Baghair Mubashrat Kay Haamla Ho Sakti Hai:  (Pregnancy Without Intercourse)     Aurat kay pregnancy kay liye mubashrat (Intercourse) aur dakhool (penetration) zaroori nahi. Aisi examples mojood hain kay ek larki pregnant ho gaee halan kay iss ney mubashrat (Intercourse) nahi ki. 22 saala Margaret check up kay liye apni family doctor kay pass gaee. Doctor ney iss ko bataya kay woh pregnant hai aur woh shadeed ghussey mein aa gaee. Iss ney cheekhtey huey doctor ko bataya kay iss ney kabhi mubashrat (Intercourse) nahi ki to pregnancy kaisey ho sakti hai. Isey bataya gaya kay baaz auqat mubashrat (Intercourse) kay baghaer foreplay kay doran mard ka discharge ho jata hai agarcha discharge vagina sey baher hua ho magar vulva kay ooper hua ho iss tarhan mani (seminal fluid) ka ek aadh drop vulva kay ander chala jata hai aur wahan sey sperm vagina mein chaley jatey hain. Issi tarhan agar aurat ek aisey kaprey sey apni vagina ko saaf karey jis per mard ki mani (semen) lagi ho to iss soorat mein bhi larki ko pregnancy honay ka imkaan hai. (Kothram: Reuben) Leucorrhea Khawateen Kay Paet Aur Pistaan (Breast) Per White Lakeerein:     Baaz khawateen kay paet aur pistaan (Breast) per white lakeerein parr jatin hain. Iss ki wajah yeh hoti hai kay pregnancy mein aurat kay paet ki skin phael jati hai. Issi tarhan pistaan (Breast) ki bhi skin phael jati hai. Baaz aurton ki skin zyada lacahkdaar (elastic) hoti hai inn kay jism per lakeerein nahi parti magar aksar aurton ki skin zyada elastic nahi hoti jiski wajah sey skin phat jati hai aur phir bachey ki paedaesh kay baad yeh tears white lakeeron mein badal jatey hain. Yeh bhi ek normal process hai. Iss hawaley sey pareshan honay ki zaroorat nahi. (Zakir)  Leucorrhea:       Mardon mein jiryan ki tarhan khawateen mein leucorrhea ki khud sakhta beemari bhi aam hai. Iss mein vagina sey white pani ka discharge hota hai. Agar thora bohut white pani kharij ho to iss kay barey mein fikar mand honay ki zaroorat nahi kyun kay yeh ek bilkul normal aur aam discharge hai jisey Bartholian glands kharij kartey hain. Yeh discharge kisi soorat mein bhi nuqsan deh nahi aur waqt kay sath sath khud hi khatam hojata hai. Leucorrhea kay liye kisi qism ki dawa leney ki zarorat nahi. (Asif Mehmood: Mobeen) Taham agar pani ka discharge bohut zyada ho, thick ho yeh smelly ho to yeh usually vagina kay infection ki wajah sey hota hai. Yeh bhi koi khatarnak beemari nahi. Kisi achey doctor sey contact karein. Yeh bohut aasani sey theek honay wala masla hai.

Surat e Inzal

Surat e Inzal

Premature Ejaculation

    Azdawaji zindagi ko khushgawar bananey mein aurat ka kirdaar bohut ahem hai biwi kay bharpoor ta'awwun sey azdawaji zindagi jannat ka namoona ban jati hai aur adum ta'awwun sey jahannum. Agar biwi khawand sey ta'awwun karey to usey koi jinsi masla nahin ho sakta agar ho jaey to biwi ki madad sey bohut aasani sey hal ho sakta hai mardon kay jitney bhi jinsi masail hain un ko poori dunya mein biwi kay ta'awwun sey aasani sey hal kya ja raha hai.

    Mardon ka ahem jinsi masla surat e inzal (premature ejaculation) hai iss sey muraad yeh hai kay mard waqt sey pehley manzil ho jata hai ba'az mahireen ka kahayal hai kay agar kisi mard ka dakhool kay 30 second ba'ad inzal ho jaey to usey iss masley ka shikar samjha jaey ga. Ek aur mahir kay mutabiq agar koi mard dakhool kay ba'ad ek minute sey pehley manzil ho jaey to  usko yeh masla hai. Master aur Johnson kay mutabiq agar koi mard mubashrat mein apni biwi ko kam az kam 50% tak orgasm hasil na kara sakey to usko surat e inzal ka masla hai merey khayal mein sab sey achi ta'areef  Dr.Helen Kaplan ki hai iss kay mutabiq agar mard ko apney inzal per control hai yani woh apni marzi sey manzil ho to woh surat e inzal ka shikaar nahin agar usey inzal per control nahin to usey surat e inzal ka mareez samjha jaey ga.

Yeh masla poori dunya mein aam hai ek research kay mutabiq America mein taqreeban 33% mard iss ka shikar hain humarey haan aksar mardon ko yeh masla hai jis ki wajah sey woh apni biviyon ko mutmaen karney mein na kaam rehtey hain nateejatan biwiyan jinsi zindagi mein na sirf dilchaspi kho deti hain bul kay woh sex sey hi bey zaar ho jati hain. Iss masley mein kuch mard dakhool kay ba'ad 2, 4 stroke laganey kay ba'ad manzil ho jatey hain aur kuch daakhil kartey hi aur ba'az dakhool sey pehley aur kuch foreplay kay doran mazil ho jatey hain aur ba'az afraad aisey hain jo baghaer tanau (erection) kay hi manzil ho jatey hain. Iss kay baad khawand sharmindagi ki wajah sey mubashrat sey bachta hai phir kafi dinon kay baad mubashrat karta hai itney arsey mein mani ki naaliyan mani (seminal fluid) sey bhar jati hain jis ki wajah sey ma'amooli jinsi ishte'aal ki wajah sey woh phir waqt sey pehley manzil ho jata hai agar yeh masla der tak rahey to kuch afraad iss ki wajah sey nafsiyati na mardi ka shikar ho jatey hain.

     Premature ejaculation ki wajoohaat kay barey mein bohut research ho chuki hai Master & Johnson aur doosrey mahireen kay mutabiq surat e inzaal ki wajah taqreeban 100% nafsiyati hoti hai jismani wajah bohut hi kam hoti hai ta'hum khush kun baat yeh hai kay biwi ki madad sey iss kay elaj ki kamyaabi ki sharah taqreeban 90% hai. Premature ejaculation ki wajah sey aurtein bharpoor jinsi lutf sey mehroom rehti hain agar aap kay mian ko surat e inzal ka masla hai to aap uski madad kar kay apni azdawaji zindagi ko bohut khushgawar bana sakti hain aap mandarja zael tareeqon ki madad sey apney khawand kay surat e inzal kay masley ko hal kar sakti hain.

    1.  Sab sey pehley aap kay mian sex kay hawaley sey humarey mua'ashrey mein phaeley huey jinsi mughalto'n aur ghalat mafroozo'n sey nijaat hasil karein iss kay liye

humari kitab 'Sex Education…Sab Kay Liye' ka muta'alla bohut mufeed rahey ga.

2. Mubashrat kay doran waqfa zyada na ho waqfa jitna lamba hoga mard itni jaldi manzil ho jaey ga le'haza iss masley kay khatmey kay liye haftey mein kam az kam do baar mubashrat honi chahiyie. Agar mian ki umar 60 saal sey zaed hai to kam az kam haftay mein ek baar.
3. Agar khawand jald manzil ho jaey to kisi nagawari ka izhaar na karein, tanqeed na karein, koi tanzya fiqra na bolein merey ek client ki biwi ney isi tarah ek moqa per kaha "agar aap achi tarah nahin kar saktey to phir karney ki koshish hi kyun kartey hain" iss tanzya fiqrey ki wajah sey na sirf uss ka masla barh gaya bul kay uss ko tanau ka masla bhi paeda ho gaya aur aen dakhool kay waqt uss ka tanau khatam ho jata hai. Aisi surat mein aap uski hosla afzaee karein, uss ka aetmaad bahaal karein aap kay iss masbat aur hosla afza ravayyey ki wajah sey woh kafi behter ho jaey ga.
4. Aap taweel foreplay karein iss doran mian aap kay hassas hisson (female genitalia) khusoosan bazer ko khoob mushtail karein agar usey iss cheez ka ilm nahin to aap khud hi apney bazer ko mushta'el karein iss kay elawa mian kay zakar aur khusyon ko na chuein jab bhi mian inzal kay qareeb ho to woh aap ko ishara kardey to aap uss kay zakar ko topi kay neechey ya bilkul jarr sey pakarr kar zor sey dabaein to uski inzal ki khwahish khatam ho jaey gi, itni der dabaey rakhein kay inzal ki khwahish khatam ho jaey magar tanau khatam na ho. Dakhool uss waqt ho jab aap orgasm kay bilkul qareeb hun mumkin hai dakhool sey pehley kaee baar aap ko iss amal ko dohrana parey. 

Pistaan Ko Mushtael Karna

Breast Stimulation - Pistaan Ko Mushtael Karna

Foreplay bunyadi tor per biwi ki zarooriyat kay mutabiq ho. Agar mian biwi ko ek hi cheez pasand hai to bohut hi acha hoga, lekin agar donon ki pasand aur zaroorat mukhtalif hai to bari bari ek doosrey ki zaroorat ko pura kya jaey. Aurat ko aksar maqamat per sukht kay bajaey soft touch pasand hota hai. Isey apni skin ko touch karna bohut pasand hai. Lehaza isskay poorey jism ko mukhtalif style sey touch karey, chaairai, prisss karein, hath aur ungli tips phaerey, ulti fingers skin per phaerey. Isski body ko kiss karein, chaateyn, cut karey, thapthapaeyn, ahista ahista marain waghaera. Foreplay kay liye zaroori hai kay pehley biwi kay kam hassaas hisson ko mushtael kara jaey. Aurat ko zaberdast jinsi lazat mohiya karney ka raaz iss cheez mein hai kay isskay jazbaat ko ahista ahista ubhara aur bharkaya jaey. Jaldi naa karein. lekin agar biwi ko pasand ho to foran ziyada hassas hisson ki taraf jaeyn. Kam hassas hisson kay baad ziyada hassas hisson ki taraf jaeyn. Pehley kam hassas hisson ko mushtael karein phir ziyada hassas hisson ko. Yani hassas hissson ko touch kartey waqt most hassas hisson ki taraf foran naa jaeyn. Foreplay kay doran apki tawajah divert naa ho. Aap jo kuch kar rahey hun apki tawajah puri tarhan iss taraf huni chahiyie. Agar mard ki tawajah divert hogi to stimulation mein kami hogi jo kay aurat ko sakt naa pasand hai. Foreplay kay doran apki sari attention iss baat per ho kay apney apni biwi ko khushi deyni hai. Jab woh khush hogi to aapko bhi khushi deygi.  Pistaan ko aik dilchasp andaaz sey mushtael kiya ja sakta hai. Inkay ooper koi khaney wali pasandeeda cheez maslan jam, honey, chocolate aur jelly waghaera lagaein aur enko mazey mazey sey chaatein. Biwi kay liye yeh bohut zyada lutf angaez hai.     Biwi kay pechai kharai hojaeyn aur pehcli janib sey pistaan ko mukhtalif tariqon sey mushtael kareyn, Donon pistaan ko donon haths sey pakrain, enko piyar sey dabai, masleyn aur bheencheyn. En kay neechey hath rakhai aur upper ko uthai. Biwi ko pechai sey pakar kar bheencheyn. Yeh sab kuch iss kay pechai beth kar bhi kiya ja sakta hai. Pechai sey mubashrat (intercourse)  kartey waqt bhi pistaan ko mushtael karna naa bholeyn. Agar biwi aapko pechai sey pakar kar bheenchey to aapko bhi lutf ajaeyga.     Pistaan (breast) ko zakar kay zariya mukhtalif andaaz sey mushtael kareyn. Yeh donon kay liye lutf angaez hai. Iss kay liye biwi chair ya bed per beth jaey, mian iss kay saamney khara hojaey phir zakar ko bar bar donon pistaan kay saath dabai zakar ki top ko nipples kay saath rub karey. Aap bhi rub kar saktai hain aur biwi bhi. Iss tarhan ki stimulation aurat ko bohut lutf deyta hai. Biwi aap ki rano ko bhi choom sakti hai jo aap kay liye bohut pur lutf hoga.     Bohut si aurton kay liye mubashrat (intercourse)  kay doran mein pistaan ko chomnaa aur chosnaa bohut lutf angaez lagta hai isssi tarhan taqreeban sari aurton ko mubashrat (intercourse)  kay doran mein pistaan ko chomnaa, faraj aur bazer (clitoris) ko mukhtalif andaaz sey touch karna baihad pasand hai. Female Genitalia - Vulva - Aaza e Makhsoosa  Bohut si aurtein iss sey orgasm hasil kar leyti hain Chunancha kuch bhi kartey huai har mumkin sorat mein pistaan ko zaror mushtael kareyn.     Agarcha bohut bari aksariyat ko pistaan ko mukhtalif andaaz sey mushta'el karna bey hudd pasand hai magar kuch aurton ko inhein chaerna pasand nahi. Woh en ki stimulation sey lutf andooz nahi hotin. Iss liye pistaan kay stimulation kay silsiley mein biwi sey puchnaa aur rehnumaee leynaa baihad mufeed hai.  Aaza e makhsoosa (vulva) kay ooper baal wala hissa jahan baeroni lub khatam hotey hain bohut hassas hai. Aksar aurtein gently kay saath mutthi mein pakarney, bheenchney, hilaney dabaney, malish karney aur kneading karney aur isskay saath lips kay darmiyan finger phaerney sey orgasm hasil karleyti hain. Iss hissey ko aap kay tarhan sey mushta'el kar saktai hain. Aap iss sarai hissey ko pakar saktey hain. Ye puri mutthi mein ajata hai. Issey bheenchein aur chordein, phir bheenchein aur chordein kay bar iss tarhan karey. Yeh phir hatheli kay nechley hissey heel ko iss per upper rakhai aur dabai, saath saath hi finger sey beroni lips ko touch kareyn. Mian ka iss sarai hissey ko jinsi lips sameint mu'nhthi aur finger mein pakarnaa aur piyar sey bheenchna aurat kay liye bohut pur lutf hai. Aaza e makhsoosa (vulva) bhi aurat kay sab sey zyada hassas hissa hai aur iss ka sab sey hassas hissa faraj aur bazer (clitoris) hain. Aaza e makhsoosa (vulva) ko mushta'el karney kay liye biwi bed yeh farash per leyt jaey, ghutney ikhattey karley, taangein zara khol ley